Category Archives: Step 1: Understanding Addiction
Life and Joy
Every time we start a new sexual addiction recovery group we are reminded anew of the heartbreak of addiction. Just minutes into the first session we usually pose the question, “Why is this a good time for you to start looking at this issue in a deeper way?” The stories that follow are gut-wrenching. Participants…
Forever a Sex Addict? (revised)
There is a common belief that “once an addict, always an addict.” The consensus is that, although you may be able to learn to manage an addiction, it will always be there waiting for an opportunity. It will require a constant battle to stay away from those old behaviors—just one slip and you’ll be off…
Staying Safe
The Limbic System is the part of our brain that we call the “survival brain.” It is in charge of all our automatic responses . . . like breathing and blinking. It is also responsible for keeping us safe and is constantly looking for anything that it believes could be a danger to us either…
No Man is an Island
“Our story is never written in isolation. We do not act in a one-man play. We can do nothing that does not affect other people, no matter how loudly we say, “It’s my own business.” ― Madeleine L’Engle, Walking on Water: Reflections on Faith and Art We, as a society, have become an extremely self-focused…
The Only Way Out
Addiction is unique in that it is all about choices and yet it takes our choices away. This is the part of addiction that is most difficult for others to understand. They don’t get why an addict doesn’t just stop their bad behaviors. Initially the person does make the choice to get lost in pornography…
Our Story . . .
