Getting Unstuck
Our lives are full of double binds—those seemingly lose-lose situations where none of our options are appealing— and yet not making a decision seems to be a doomed decision in itself. Addictions are often ways of avoiding the negative emotions attached to these frequent situations. This leads us directly to one of the biggest double…
Why It’s OK to Finally Stop Feeling Guilty
Recovery is seldom quick or easy. It is created bit by bit through an accumulation of small successes . . . and, often, a few failures. Even the most committed recovering addict may find themselves slipping back into old patters and behaviors from time to time, as they are experimenting with new ways to cope…
Conflict Resolution – Navigating the Main Event
In this post we provide an additional five steps to help successfully resolve the conflicts in your life. These are similar to the steps you’ll find in many conflict resolution classes or workbooks. They are well tested and, as you learn to use them, you’ll find they DO increase the likelihood that you’ll be able…
Resolving Conflict – 5 Simple Preparations
Nobody likes conflict, but it is something we will encounter in nearly every significant relationship. Avoiding it, as most of us have historically done, keeps our relationships superficial and unsatisfying, creates resentments, and adds to our general anxiety and stress. The more unresolved conflicts we have in our lives, the more isolated we become. Since…
Stomp Out Stress
I’ve come to the conclusion that procrastination is likely the single largest source of stress in my life. I’m far from lazy, in fact I have the reputation of being “all work and no play.” I usually enjoy the challenge of a big project, but when I’m unsure of myself; don’t know exactly what I’m…