Can Trust be Restored after Porn?
We’ve probably all heard sermons and marriage seminars talk about the respect and love passage in Ephesians 5:33, but the quandary is how to live by those words when a husband is involved in the unrespectable behaviors of sexual addiction and, because of them, his wife feels anything but loved? And . . . why…
The Two Roads of Pain
Those struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors have only two choices and both of them involve pain: 1. We can continue acting out with the realization that using sex to meet our deep internal needs leads to increasingly destructive behavior. Moreover, it progressively damages our ability to function in personal relationships and grow spiritually in our…
Walk a mile in a sex addict’s shoes?
We’ve all heard some variation of the quote that suggests we need to “walk a mile in another person’s shoes.” It has been quoted (and misquoted) so many times, it’s impossible to even determine what the original quote was, or where it came from. Some insist it is an old Cherokee saying, some credit it…
Warning sign #3: Entitlement
The final common indicator that we’re moving toward a relapse—entitlement—is, without a doubt, the most perilous. Even though, as discussed in the last two posts, the isolation that comes from reduced accountability and the old thought patterns that our secrets reawaken certainly put us in risky territory, entitlement is the chute that is most likely…
Warning Sign #2 – Increasing Secrets
In the last blog post we looked at diminishing accountability—the first sign that we’re moving toward a relapse. If you missed that post, you’ll find it here. The second red flag correlates closely to that initial sign. Learning to reach out and trust people is one of the key components of recovery. God’s original intent…
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