As we’re scurrying around trying to pull things together for our vacation I’m struck by the sheer amount of details that go into planning anything of note. And yet . . . often we try to just “shoot from the hip” when it comes to making positive changes in our lives.
In our sexual addiction recovery groups, we dedicate several sessions to developing a relapse prevention plan. The plan is intended to be an answer to the question, “How will I stay on track AFTER the weekly accountability of this group is over.” What is surprising to many people is that the best plans are not an “I won’t” list, but a “I will” list.
What DO you need to do to reach your goal? What are the things that are evident in the lives of those that have already successfully found victory over what you are working to overcome? What do you need more of in your life to live a healthier, more balanced existence?
If we focus only on what we have decided we can’t or shouldn’t have, we are in danger of building resentment and entitlement—two things that have the potential of derailing our positive efforts. Instead of focusing on our loss, we need to fill our lives with positive, healthy thoughts and activities that will meet our authentic need for connection with God and others. When we have wholesome, satisfying friendships in our lives, we are much less likely to pursue counterfeit ways of feeling loved and acceptable.
“Do not those who plot evil go astray? But those who plan what is good find love and faithfulness.” — Proverbs 14:22
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