Do You Need to Recalibrate your HOPE meter?

IT’S EASY TO LOSE HOPE . . . We get impatient when success doesn’t happen as quickly as we think it should . . . and we lose hope. We take our eyes off the goal . . . and we lose hope. We start listening to the negative voices in our heads instead of…

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I Screwed Up. What Now?

Slips and relapses sometimes happen, especially early in recovery and, later, if we lose sight of what we need to do to move toward our recovery goals. If it happens to you, don’t forget the 4 “R’s” of dealing with a relapse. RESIST wasting your time and energy telling yourself you’re a loser or a…

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Keys to Success: Eliminating Shame

Do you ever feel like you’re inferior to those around you? Do you hide some of your thoughts and behaviors because you don’t want anyone to know how messed up you are? My husband felt that a lot in his life. His struggle with sexual addiction was long and dark. He often tried to stop…

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3 Killer Consequences of Toxic Shame

We’ve probably all seen those adventure movies where the guy unknowingly stumbles into a pit of quicksand. The more he struggles to get free, the more hopelessly trapped he becomes. Shame is, quite literally, the quicksand of the emotional world. To fully understand its dangers, we first have to understand what it is . .…

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What’s so Big about a Little Porn?

In a hurry? Click here to download the pdf version of this blog to read later. What’s the big deal about looking at a little porn? In today’s society blatant sexuality seems to be everywhere. Movies, TV, even the commercials are increasingly blurring the line between “family” entertainment and soft-core pornography. Clothing that would have…

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